The Avoidant Therapist Reviews 

Before working with Alexis, every time my ex pulled away I panicked. I'd send another message, ask for reassurance, then regret it afterwards. The biggest change was learning not to react immediately. I became much calmer and, ironically, that completely changed the dynamic between us

The program has genuinely changed the way I understand myself and my relationships.

Before starting, I felt like I understood attachment theory intellectually, but I was still getting caught in the same patterns. The programme helped me connect the dots between what I was feeling, where those reactions were coming from, and most importantly, what to actually do differently.

What I appreciated most was how practical and personal the support felt. Alexis and Elizabeth are compassionate but also challenge you when you need it. I never felt judged, and I came away with tools I can actually use rather than just more information.

I feel much calmer and more secure in myself now. I don't overanalyse every interaction in the way I used to, and I have a much clearer idea of what a healthy relationship should feel like.

If you know a lot about attachment but still find yourself repeating the same patterns, I would absolutely recommend Secure Base.

In a single diagnostic session, and after reading some letters I had written to my DA and analyzing them and my DA's responses to them (via text), Alex was able to provide clarity on my situation that gave me profound relief. I could have spent months and thousands of dollars rehashing all my questions, thoughts, self-doubts, etc. with a therapist and not received the clarity and confidence I got from one diagnostic session with Alex. In addition, post session, Alex provided me with a recording of the entire conversation and an AI-generated summary of it in addition to his own thoughtful, personalized analysis of my situation. The result? No more rumination. Mental clarity. Emotional freedom and resolve. And when and if I waver, as I sometimes do, I can go back to the recorded conversation and/or summary or diagnostic report and settle my nervous system and mind once again. Alex is the real deal: a kind, empathetic, extremely sharp therapist who can actually HELP by weighing in with a professional opinion that is honest, evidence-based, and intuitively (for me, at least) resonant.

It's one thing to have all the right things to say (which to a certain extent, the therapy-goers sorta can feel & know); its totally a different thing deliver it in a truly RELATABLE way and bring back to control emotionally to ourselves. This is where Alexis excels at.

On top of that, Alexis is a true professional & natural at this very field of avoidants dynamics. From the online resources to the in person conversation.

Alexis is a master in his craft. He listened closely to my story, asked thoughtful questions, and provided meaningful advice on how to handle the situation now and in the future. Additionally, he gave me tips on how to heal and book recommendations.

Alexis is a professional therapist amongst many unqualified amateurs on social media that prey on those going through difficult breakups. His guidance is based on psychological principles and insights, and his goal is to always do what is best for his client to get to a healthier state, regardless of the future outcome of the broken relationship. He provided me specific advice on how to move forward in a healthy way, whether that aligned with my desires at the time or not, that ultimately got me to a better state of mind to move forward with my life.

Last year, at the start of an excruciatingly painful time in my life, I came across Alexis' YouTube videos and started watching. His advice was so helpful that I decided to book a discovery call with him. That call gave me a good feeling and the confidence I needed to begin his coaching program.

I was in deep shock -- my separated husband, with whom I had spent many years and a big part of my life, went through a midlife crisis and turned away from our marriage. I had still been holding onto the hope of our reconciling, so the loss felt devastating.

When I texted Alexis my story, he responded calmly and reassuringly, promising to be with me every step of the way, navigating this extremely difficult time -- and he has kept that promise.

Besides giving me his valuable insights, he also suggests practical things: suggestions what to say or how to text in how I communicate with my husband. Because my husband is avoidant, Alexis has shown me how to approach things gently, without pressure, without chasing,in ways to keep communication open.

Through his coaching, I've gone from sleepless nights full of utter panic to actually finding moments of calm and hope again. Alexis is professional yet warm, intelligent, and compassionate, as well as timely. He is patient with my repetitive questions and emotional ups and downs, and he never makes me feel rushed or dismissed. His steady presence and grounded insights have helped me keep moving forward even when I feel stuck.

If you are in a painful place and need someone who is both compassionate and deeply knowledgeable, I can't recommend Alexis enough. His coaching has been a lifeline for me, and I am truly grateful to have found him.

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Alexis is a true specialist for the specific traits of DAs. His WhatsApp coaching is so incredibly helpful and gives me extremely valuable insights into the mind of DAs and my DA ex.
Everytime I feel stuck I am offered an explanation and guidance. I highly recommend working with him.

After a difficult breakup, I was stuck and didn't know what to do. My therapist at the time wasn't helpful.
I joined the secure base program with Alexis and it was a total game changer. I am now back with my ex and we finally manage to connect emotionally.

I give Alexis a 5 star review. I went from not sleeping at night and being stalked by my ex(who dumped me overnight after a 2.5 yr relationship/situationship) on social media to moving on and developing a successful company. I needed someone with Alexis experience to guide me into blocking my ex and moving on with my life. D

Alexis coaching really helped me to provide directions after my break up. What I liked is his focus is to help me self build my confidence and not so much focus on break up. With his help now I am looking into finding new partner. Thanks Alexis

Alexis is an absolute professional, after much studying on what happened and realizing my ex was an appointment I was lucky enough to seek out Alexis. As a former avoidant himself you truly sees things from both sides. He gave me unbelievable advice that was right on the money. My former ax and I are now planning to get married. If you're looking for great advice from a sincere gentleman that knows what he's talking about let no further than Alexis.

Alexis is my Guardian Angel!!! I am going through the darkest time of my life and his honest, straightforward advice has literally helped me remember how to breathe again!

My ex is a DA and the fact that he is a former DA gives me all the faith in the world to trust what he says. When we talk on WhatsApp it’s like he KNOWS US personally!!! He’s been able to read things about our relationship that were spot on. I value his advice, sooooooo much. I wouldn’t have made it this far without him. Thank you Alexis for being an amazing coach!

It gives an stop before your actions pushed by emotions , and make you realise you over exaggerate your focus on other person . Gives some perspective even if it’s not the desire and sometimes is needed.

Had a great experience with Alexis, Elizabeth, and another therapist from their team (I forgot her name). They told me what I needed to hear at the time. In my case, what I needed to hear was that it was better to break up with my ex, since I always fell for women that took advantage of me.

I also enrolled in their group program "Love yourself first", which was a great experience. Elizabeth coached most of these sessions, and these sessions gave me a lot of new insights that I needed at the time to love myself more and be ready for a healthy relationship. Also loved the interaction in these group sessions.

Alexis is great. We have been doing whatsapp coaching over a month and still more to go. He helped me deal with my anxiety post breakup, and we established a game plan in reconciling with my ex. He is very responsive and really understanding of the situation I’ve been in. Every single advice was spot on and so far my reconciliation with my avoidant ex is going in the right direction. From not talking at all we came to the point of having a dinner the other night. Still more to do but feel confident that Alexis is by my side.

Elizabeth is wonderful. Great working knowledge of attachment styles, great insights, super supportive, and easy to communicate with. I recommend!!

Elizabeth is a great therapist. She's helped me develop more self worth and awareness. I feel I now have the tools I need to have a healthy and balanced relationship.

Elizabeth is amazing! She's so calm, understanding, and she will gently and kindly shoot you straight! She is not going to tell you what you want to hear but she will tell you what you NEED to hear! She is very responsive and listens to every detail. As you're talking she picks up on details quickly and then points them out to you to make you think about it. I'm so happy I found her!

Alexis was my absolute ‘go to’ in some of the darkest days in my life . I am in my mid 50’s , and dating mating and relating had become a minefield for me . My ex partner was a widower which was in itself very difficult . Fastforward … alot of self work and guidance and I am loving life . Alexis and Elizabeth ( shes so calming ! ) I am forever thankful . I still watch a link or two - never stop learning.